Maybe Hell is right in this life; it's right here, right now.” During his interview, this elder described himself as “like that old song says: scared of living and afraid of dying.” Doubts about a joyful Heaven, yet fearing the Hell his parents preached about, combined with incipient physical problems, result in a purposeless and worthless suffering. The self may be defined as two complementary faculties: a process that is unfolding and an object that is observed (Charmaz, 1995). It's wandering around—a robot with no place to go.” In describing her picture, she mixes pronouns, calling the robot both “it” and “me.” This wandering robot symbolizes emptiness, loneliness, and the lack of control that she feels at this stage of life. What is significant in these studies is that they focus on how individuals define, understand, and cope with the stressors they experience as part of both a personal and shared system of meaning (Becker, 1997). The Lord, our Teacher, doesn’t hide himself anymore. This research was supported (in part) by the Fetzer Institute. We may go about our day-to-day life, oblivious to the For example, we suggest that just as there are elders who are not ill and yet suffer, there are also elders who are ill and do not perceive themselves as suffering (Charmaz, 1995). Suffering The experience of physical pain and/or mental distress. He believes he will suffer until he finds “someone who will tell [him] the way to go.” His inability to handle life's daily problems places him in an existential liminal space. But some people can't get past that English word "suffering" and want to disagree with the Buddha because of it. Physical suffering is pain, aging, deterioration and injury. He recalled that the elderly woman “would wake me up at 2 in the morning to eat dinner.” His fear lay both in his grandmother's “craziness” and the fact that grandmother and grandson became strangers to each other. An 80-year-old European American man lost his only son more than 10 years earlier in a car accident. We used narrative analysis, a specialized form of qualitative analysis, as the method of analyzing our data (Mischler, 1986; Polkinghorne, 1988; Reissman, 1997; Sarbin, 1986), as it follows Bruner's (1990) meaning of how protagonists interpret lived experiences, and Polkinghorne's (1988) assertion that, in narrative, the past is reconstructed in light of the narrator's present worldview, which in turn is shaped by past experiences such as suffering. “Both, in a different way. Informants were recruited through past research rosters of the Polisher Research Institute, as well as through requests to informants in ongoing research projects at the institute to suggest neighbors, friends, and fellow churchgoers or synagogue-goers for inclusion. Is there such a thing as quiet or silent suffering, or is suffering always expressed in some way through words or cries or gestures? For them, the contingency of the pained body extended to life itself. The heightened incidence of chronic and acute disease, physical pain, depression, decline in mobility, more frequent loss, and nearness to death or finitude, although normative, may contribute to an overall sense that elders suffer. What we think of as our self, our personality, and ego, are temporary creations of the skandhas. An 83-year-old European American woman described depression as “when you're down in yourself, it's from something that you have done; it's all you.” The same respondent described sadness as “when I lost my sister,” and suffering as “something that comes on you. Eligible and interested informants were interviewed either at the informant's home or, if the respondent preferred, at the office of H. Black. Joseph was sold into slavery by his own brothers. According to the doctrine of anatman (or anatta) there is no "self" in the sense of a permanent, integral, autonomous being within an individual existence. I mean even though it hurts a lot, you're always busy asking questions.” She highlighted the events of suffering in her life, such as the birth of her son and her own illness, not only as bridges from one way of life to another but also as bridges from being one person to becoming another. You’re 80.’” The unknown root of her suffering combined with her doctor's paternalistic indifference make her feel like a foolish hypochondriac. The words and phrases in the Bible expressing this concept are too numerous to list. Otherwise, you'll waste time spinning your wheels over a word that doesn't mean what the Buddha meant. Life may be going well for some of you, but we all face some things to varying degrees in life. This variation regarding the aforementioned domains was easily accessed at a screening contact. 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I read different things like maybe all those things in the Bible, like an afterlife, [are] a fairy tale. President Kimball has not sinned or charged God foolishly. The person can no longer depend on the “self” as it was, as elders eloquently state in their interviews. Unbearable suffering is an important issue in end-of-life decisions. Another example of suffering in the Bible is Joseph’s story in the book of Genesis. This vast area of experience—suffering in old age—remains largely unexplored. Most elders struggled to create or discover meaning for suffering and thus determine its value in their lives. Whatever the case, being responsible for the death of a dependent other evoked, for many elders, an inimitable anguish. Lord, allow us to embrace your will, not to hide from it. Because she does not know the cause or course of her phantom illness, she is unable to attach meaning, purpose, or value to it. The Twelve Links of Dependent Origination, Definition of the Buddhist Term: "Skandha", The Buddhist Teachings of Self and No-Self. Whatever character and faith are already built into a Christian’s life prior to going through suffering tends to come out during suffering. It is a part of life. Culture cannot be abstracted from a society's historical reality; interaction among members is central to inheriting and bequeathing a culture (Hall, 1959; Turner, 1996). In the latter stage of her life she feels bereft; she is left with a self that shames her. “It's a robot with empty eyes. As the oldest child of seven, she took care of the younger children while her mother worked. We give our heartfelt thanks to the men and women who shared their life stories and stories of suffering. When our sins catch up with us and we feel the pain, in humility, let’s humble ourselves and accept it. Later in life, she nursed her mother and siblings through their illnesses and deaths. Unlike Buddhism: 11 Common Misunderstandings and Mistakes. That's why I think it is useful to toss out English words like "suffering" and "stressful" and go back to "dukkha." Decision Editor: Charles F. Longino, Jr., PhD. As a result of Joseph’s Her embarrassment about cancer and the mastectomy, and ignorance about its prevalence, became a dimension of the disease that added to her suffering. A lived experience, such as suffering, is precisely such because an individual interpreted a negative event in a particular way at a singular point in place and time (Polkinghorne, 1988; Rosenwald & Ochberg, 1992). In America, suffering may be seen as a special property of the aged because of cultural myths about old age. When asked if she had ever suffered, an 80-year-old European American woman answered in this way: “The most I'm suffering is right now because I get all this medicine, but I don't get any help. He is both waiting for his life to begin and, because of his age and frail health, waiting for death. He described suffering as an “inability to be active,” and then he added, “but you only suffer so much until you just give up. In Egypt, he was indicted on false charges and thrown into prison. Interestingly, the fear of one's life story not being heard, especially at the end of life, may be part of the experience of suffering (Picard, 1991). That is a mistake. (2) We suffer because of our own foolishness. To suffer through loss is not only to lose loved ones but also to lose the roles that one held in relation to them. Generalizations also fail to penetrate problematic emotions, such as guilt, regret, shame, or a failure to forgive or perceive oneself as forgiven that cause suffering in later life, especially if elders believe that they have no second chances to “right wrongs” done early in life. Informants developed a unique definition, attribution, theory, and theodicy about suffering based on the particularity of the experience as well as how they “fit” suffering into their lives as a whole. A 72-year-old frail African American woman, when asked what a picture of suffering would show, drew on an image of science fiction. The fact that suffering is both familiar and alien touches on a component of suffering that waxed significant in our study—the paradox of suffering. That sounds so negative. Buddhism will be a muddle for anyone who doesn't grasp the deeper meaning of dukkha. She now links her reluctant acceptance of a disabled son with mourning those spiritual capacities—faith and hope—that might have helped her cope with his disabilities. An 81-year-old African American man describes suffering as a torturous lack of self-knowledge. His current situation resonates to this powerful memory of chaos. Start where you like and take as much time as you need. We reap what we sow (Gal. She feels joy contemplating an afterlife in which “everyone will be young and healthy.” Unlike the gentleman just mentioned, this respondent widened her area of control to include the “heaven” that she believes will follow this life. Many elders said that they seldom thought about this subject. On the other hand, suffering … Here is what Paul said in Philippians about his life: Here is what Paul said in Philippians about his life: "Indeed, I count everything as loss because of the surpassing worth of knowing Christ Jesus my Lord. This model sees the older person as the active constructor, interpreter, and creator of meaning of his or her smaller world and focuses on the personal meaning systems of older people as part of the larger system of cultural and social meaning. We believe individual specificity in meaning is important. Although she cannot change her prognosis, she controls what is left of her life by changing her identity from a sick person to a dying one. She has “lost” her younger, vital self to an older disabled self. Theravada scholar Walpola Rahula said, "What we call a 'being', or an 'individual', or 'I', is only a convenient name or a label given to the combination of these five groups. Why do you think God allows us to suffer? 32:23). Jacobs’ decision to take a white man other than her master as a lover is more complex than a ‘poor choice’ that rejects virtue in favor of illicit sex. They were transcribed into a PC text-base for analysis. Suffering has been defined in medical, psychological, and religious idioms as “the state of severe distress associated with events that threaten the intactness of the person” (Cassell, 1982, p. 640); “a threat to our composure, our integrity, and the fulfillment of our intentions” (Reich, 1987, p. 117); and “as involving threats that constitute an alienation of our being” (van Hooft, 1998, p. 14). Critical to the experience of suffering is the perception that common sense notions of life and living disappear. Many elders experienced suffering as transformative. Example sentences with the word suffering. The suffering of change. It’s all sin can do. An 81-year-old African American widow claimed that her primary role in life was a caretaker. Natural selection This distinctiveness resides in elders' perceptions that their unique voices will soon be silent, their place in this world will soon be vacant, and their individual and cohort history is coming to an end. On the basis of our research, most individuals have experienced suffering. We have never heard him complain about his trials. Would you describe an event or period in your life when you felt that you were suffering? When suffering is viewed from a health care perspective, some have suggested that the focus of clinical practice should be the treatment of human suffering in a general sense (Cassell, 1991; Cherny, 1996; Heath, 1989; Kleinman, 1988; Maeve, 1998; van Hooft, 1998), in contrast to treatment of specific parts of the body, disease symptoms, or organ systems. Elders revealed that they had not shared their experiences with health professionals or clergypersons because they described suffering as more than mental, physical, or spiritual pain, as having an existential quality that is rooted in being human, and because they were not asked. For our respondents, suffering as a lack of control was transformed into acceptance of a smaller sphere of personal control or humility. What Do Buddhist Teachings Mean by Sunyata, or Emptiness? There are several excellent studies that have explored the experiential problems of old age, such as decline, fear, illness, loneliness, and grief, and, through these experiences, suffering (Kaufman, 1980; Myerhoff, 1979, 1984). So we cannot avoid suffering in life. Would you tell me the story of your life? “Dying is suffering because you're sick and you're helpless, but death is just death. A classic distinction in medical anthropology has been made between disease, a biological construct, and illness, or the victim's experience of the disease episode. The Bible doesn’t whitewash our experience of suffering by saying that it’s all of one Even though God never leaves us, we are often unaware of his presence. She had been taken to the hospital after a fainting spell. Certainly, the term has personal and communal connotations for informants and elicits images that are both unique and culturally and religiously shared. A 76-year-old European American woman suffered when she finally accepted the fact that her son, born with an incurable congenital disease, “would never get better.” At that moment she “stopped praying and gave up hope.” Although she said that she suffered because her son was unable to realize his “wonderful potential,” she revealed that suffering also resulted from her loss of faith. And then the real suffering began. Medical anthropology has pursued description and analysis of illnesses, focusing on the illness experience and on constructs such as “distress,” “misfortune,” “affliction,” and similar terms (Godoy, Jacobson, & Wilkie, 1998; Kleinman, 1980, 1988; Lewin, 1979; Morse & Johnson, 1991, chap. Now the images of Jesus Christ are many. 31–39). On the basis of our informants' experiences and expressions of suffering, we offer our own definition of suffering as a visceral awareness of the self's vulnerability to be broken or diminished at any time and in many ways. Suffering became an outside enemy that had somehow gained entrance inside an elder. "Dukkha" is one of those words. Pain evoked fear of mortality—the loss of this life as we know it. These are: This takes us to the Buddha's teachings on the self. Here A is not equal to A. We conclude, because of elders' interpretations of their own suffering and the key experiential aspects they reported, that suffering in older age is distinct in quality and meaning. See, you hurt yourself by not giving up.” Because he accepts his dependence, he views himself as a person who continues to have choices, however limited, and therefore retains a sense of control over his situation. In this definition the self includes an abiding identity that is both actor and acted upon, watcher and watched, and subject and object of life experiences. She described her suffering this way: “Suffering is a constant search for solutions. Some translators are chucking out "suffering" and replacing it with "dissatisfaction" or "stress." Remember, the Buddha didn't speak English, so he didn't use the English word, "suffering." This qualitative research study explored the personal meaning of suffering to a group of 40 community-dwelling elders, stratified by gender and race. And … A 74-year-old European American man admitted that his suffering began after his parents died. Informants aged 70 and older were included; the average age was 78. Narrative analysis was appropriate for our study because it concerns human agency and imagination and is suited to studies of subjectivity and the self. Suffering Matures and Equips Us In the midst of an extreme trial, it can be hard to develop mature faith. This process went through several iterations before the final themes of suffering were named. A psychological scenario of “time running out,” being “passed by,” or “past one's prime” is culturally connected to old age. It also permits an immediate paragraph-level analysis to orient readers to issues (e.g., the value of suffering) before the story moves on. An 82-year-old European American woman interpreted suffering before death as a summons to take final control over her life. Narrative analysis has been widely used in gerontology (Becker, 1997; Gubrium, 1993; Kaufman, 1986; Myerhoff, 1979, 1984). Things that you really need to survive and you don't have.” To her, sadness was “losing my job at age 60.” She described depression as “not able to get up out of yourself, you can't get out of your suffering or your being sad.”For her the constructs of depression, sadness, and suffering were distinct but interdependent. Some of the core questions we asked in the interview are provided in the Appendix. Buddhist philosophy is extremely subtle and complex, the product of thousands of years of study and contemplation by Buddhist monks and nuns al… Illness and pain usually diminish an elder's social life; personal relationships shrink and interpersonal roles lose balance. We sin, and we suffer misery for it. In sum, issues of suffering are ultimately issues of identity—those of self and important others—in the face of finitude. The values expounded in this perspective are evidenced in gerontology itself, which increasingly calls for a more holistic treatment of the aged (Regnier, 1993). Ageing, illness and death are also suffering. It has also merged with other traditions of Asia, including Taoism, Hinduism, Confucianism, and even Islam. 'Whatever is impermanent is dukkha' (Yad aniccam tam dukkham). Here is the first reason: I. You know, be sure I'm on the right track with everybody and everything.” Because he recognized how “little control” he has over the major issues of life, such as illness and death, his ever-diminishing area of control now circles his “own backyard.”. We felt that to initially define suffering might artificially shape informant discourse. Perhaps similar to those of the gravely ill, elders' hopes for this life are condensed into the small triumphs of every day, such as “waking up each morning” or “walking a block or two.” In other words, hope rests on the diminution and arduousness of daily life. The outcome could be a dizzying sense of unreality and forced a question: “When will this end?” Suffering in age challenges the content and integrity of the future self. So, deserved suffering is inevitable: “Be sure your sin will find you out” (Num. When the “last was gone” she felt bereft of her identity as well as her family. The impending loss of self through dying and death produced a particular type of suffering for elders. Although many informants felt, in many ways, ageless, internalizing the cultural view of old age as unproductive caused suffering. A similar sensibility is found in work that focuses on the whole self in end-of-life care, and on the efficacious treatment of emotional and physical pain in clinical and hospice settings (Kaufman, 2000; Kleinman, 1997; Lawton, 2000). Let the meaning of dukkha unfold for you, without other words getting in the way. After his grandfather died, his grandmother “lost her mind,” as well as a sense of time and place. We recruited 40 informants who were 70 years old or older from the Philadelphia, PA, area for extended qualitative interviews, which elicited their life story and experiences and philosophies about suffering. He thinks of things he seldom considered, such as “life everlasting.” He feels pushed into another realm of consciousness—where things unseen and unproven to exist are important subjects for wonder and study. Respondents created an individual theodicy that absorbed personal suffering and kept the sanctity of their beliefs, whatever they were, intact. The intention in interpretation is to describe, explain, and elaborate phenomena as related by the informant and based on the entire transcript (Stake, 1995). In general there is impermanence and imperfection of life, which both cause suffering. Examples of pain and suffering settlements could involve: Someone is the victim in a car accident and suffers whiplash and a concussion. There are few studies, however, that specifically examine suffering in the aged-based way we discuss here. Discussion. Although this work is different from our concern with elders' suffering outside of patienthood, it is similar to our approach to the experience of suffering as common, unique, both observable and hidden, and complex. But that is only a small part of suffering's role in the life of the believer. How was it resolved? God uniquely gives us his presence in suffering. (1) We suffer because we live in a fallen world where sin reigns in the hearts of men. "Dukkha" is Pali, a variation of Sanskrit, and it means a lot of things. On the one hand, the characters care for each other when they very well could have killed each other. The idea is to kill the animal as quickly as … "Dukkha" is Pali, a variation of Sanskrit, and it means a lot of things. Both the enveloping nature of the experience, which could and did lead to uncertainty about if and when it would end, yoked together two normally incompatible experiential measurements, closure and openness. We should also expect to partake in suffering in order to show the world our teacher and our Savior. She is the author of "Rethinking Religion" and has covered religion for The Guardian, Tricycle.org, and other outlets. For purposes of discussion, we define the terms that are integral to and related in this article, such as culture, self, and suffering. Within respondents' narratives, we identified three overarching themes of suffering: (a) suffering as lack of control; (b) suffering as loss; and (3) the personal value of suffering. “For those whom the Lord loves he disciplines, and he scourges every son He receives” (Heb. I had this aneurysm and they stapled me up. “When they [anxiety attacks] come on, you think you're dying. It's the finish.” This elder believes that the illness and dependency that precede dying are a form of suffering. Do you think suffering is a “normal” part of life? Methods. Many elders saw value in suffering in light of a personally constructed, spiritual interpretation of the suffering incident rather than through their religion's traditional doctrine. Beginning with the initial interview, we discussed each text as to its nature and where it might belong among themes. What do you think happens after we die? His suffering includes the sense that he is less than a “full person” because of his indecision. Emotional suffering is betrayal, sadness, loneliness and feelings More examples. An 80-year-old frail African American man cannot leave his apartment without assistance. He believes his neighbors do not like him; he cannot regain his place in the “foreign” country of his neighborhood. Although he lives in “constant pain” from several debilitating illnesses, losing his son was and remains the “greatest suffering.” When asked what a picture of suffering would show, he answered without hesitation, “Christ on the cross. suffering example sentences. Over the centuries, Buddhism has grown and evolved into a highly diverse tradition with many different sects who emphasize different aspects of the Buddha’s teachings. A group of questions in our interview schedule asked respondents to differentiate among depression, sadness, and suffering. The wisdom of her body provided a metaphor—that she was “like a shell”—that both heralded death and caused her to staunch the loss of her life's blood. Sometimes translators bump into words that have no corresponding words meaning exactly the same thing in the other language. He admits that his thoughts have “changed” since his wife's seizure. The audiotapes of private interview sessions were transcribed and checked for accuracy. That purpose is not always punishment, although sin does bring punishment. Because of it, they existed in a social, psychological, and experiential liminal state. Because he was “so self-absorbed” he felt unable to chart a route back to self-understanding. The truth is … As elders perceive a diminishment of strength, cognition, and usefulness, there is constant awareness that time is running out; finding meaning in suffering, and in life, has a particular urgency. To that end, we recruited 40 research informants from the Philadelphia, PA, area for extended qualitative interviews. The decisions he needed to make concerning his life, such as choosing friends, looking for a job, and whether or not to marry or own a home, overwhelmed him. When she first learned she had cancer, she urged her family to “keep it quiet” because of the shame she attached to it. It's positive. Most respondents gave short responses to questions concerning suffering before death. The fact that some elders could not evaluate their grief, pain, anguish, or fear of death itself became the experience of suffering. Research on depression, illness, loss, poverty, racism, stress and trauma, and posttraumatic stress disorder suggests a continuing role of these events in shaping a life (Banyard, Williams, & Siegel, 2001; Bar-Tur & Levy-Shiff, 2000; Breslau, Davis, Peterson, & Schultz, 2000; Dasberg, 2001; Hyer & Sohnle, 2001; Ngo, Tranh, Gibbons, & Oliver, 2001; Simeon, Guralnik, Schmeidler, Sirof, & Knutelska, 2001; Weintraub & Ruskin, 1999). Metaphors were sometimes used to describe feelings about oneself in the face of death. Objectives. This distinction certainly applies to suffering in which the “cause” may range from a major public trauma to a private and subtle experience; both may be subjectively experienced as suffering. President Kimball’s experiences serve as an example of how we should meet similar adversity and suffering in our lives. Through the process of the interview, elders connect the suffering experience to the entirety of the life lived and the story of suffering to the life story. Informants described the experience of suffering as both spatially and temporally bounded yet completely boundless in regard to term or insult. Suffering as loss was transformed into compassion for others' losses, or an awareness of the fragility of life. However, he also said there was a path to the Yet people often glibly dismiss Buddhism as soon as they hear that word "suffering.". But what is it? They are in a flux of momentary arising and disappearing." The incomparability of suffering experiences relate to informants' unique personal histories, perceptions, and “cause” of suffering. We describe each theme in the paragraphs that follow and cite examples that illustrate its content. Do you think that being older and closer to the end of life is a form of suffering? In other words, time flew or dragged. 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